Masters-Center / BodySmart Wellness Newsletter – 7/31/15

Table Of Contents

1. Article – Basics of Developing Your Communication Skills

2. Philosophy For The Day – Our Behavior

3. Make $500.00 With Ease

4. Online and Tele-Sessions Save Time, Travel and Money

5. Workshops and Courses

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1. Article:

Basics Of Developing Your Communication Skills
by Philip Holder, PhD
Copyright 2015

Since no two people think or feel exactly the same, the ability to convey your thoughts and feelings clearly, listen effectively, argue productively, resolve conflicts, stay on topic and achieve common goals are essential in interpersonal relationships. Having the tools to better, manage anger and frustration, empathize and to effectively negotiate, can stop differences of opinion from escalating into full blown arguments.

Personal differences make life interesting, but can also cause conflict. Destructive arguments leave scars that are difficult to repair. Communication and listening skills are essential. Even though discussions are generally more productive than arguments, even arguments can be constructive and help you to better understand your spouse, friend, family member, coworkers etc., if you follow a few simple rules. You can gain the ability to manage anger and frustration, empathize and to effectively negotiate, by following a few simple guidelines.

 

Listen

It’s important to listen, not just to hear. Too often when one person is speaking, the other has stopped listening because he or she is already deciding what they want to say in rebuttal. Do your best to listen to what is actually said, completely and without filtering or translating that message into what you think they meant rather than what the person actually said. It’s important that you help to make the other person feel heard.

 

Defensive Reactions

Avoid becoming defensive. Usually when someone becomes defensive, their mouth opens and their ears close. It is totally unproductive to interpret a different opinion or viewpoint as a personal attack. It is important to acknowledge that others may have as much conviction in their beliefs as you do in yours.

 

Honesty

Often time people will put an inaccurate spin on the other person’s statements in order to make the other person sound less credible. This is dishonest and destructive to the process of communication. For Example.: Person “A”says: I think what you did was stupid. Person “B” replies: So you’re saying I’m stupid. Although they sound similar they are two totally different statements. When a person mischaracterizes a statement in this way, or takes a statement out of the original context, the focus shifts from the real issue at hand to addressing the inaccurate statement. If you truly believe in your position, you should never have to put a slanted spin or in any way distort what the other person said to make your position sound more valid. If you find yourself doing that you might want to reevaluate the validity of your own position.

 

But, It’s Because, But That’s Different

Avoid the But/Because trap. Many people seem to think that when something happens to them it’s somehow “Different” than when it applies to others. Strangely, certain criteria apply to the rest of the world, but there’s a subtle exemption when the same similar criteria is applied to them personally. That’s where the personal Inner Lie begins.

 

Look For Solutions For A Great Future Rather Than Problems From The Past.

Think about it… How frequently do we hear people say, “The Problem Is”… Wherever we focus our thoughts and energy,  that is what we will give power to. It is important, therefore, to have the mindset of looking forward for solutions rather that backwards for problems.

 

Reality

Like the parable of “THE ELEPHANT AND THE BLIND MEN”, your reality is not necessarily universal reality…

Once upon a time, there lived six blind men in a village. One day the villagers told them, “Hey, there is an elephant in the village today.” They had no idea what an elephant is. They decided, “Even though we would not be able to see it, let us go and feel it anyway.” All of them went where the elephant was. Everyone of them touched the elephant.

“Hey, the elephant is a pillar,” said the first man who touched his leg. 

“Oh, no! it is like a rope,” said the second man who touched the tail. 

“Oh, no! it is like a thick branch of a tree,” said the third man who touched the trunk of the elephant. 

“It is like a big hand fan” said the fourth man who touched the ear of the elephant. 

“It is like a huge wall,” said the fifth man who touched the belly of the elephant. 

“It is like a solid pipe,” Said the sixth man who touched the tusk of the elephant. 

They began to argue about the elephant and everyone of them insisted that he was right…

The point is, what you think and or feel is “true reality”, is only your or anyone’s OPINION about what is real. Be open to other viewpoints. Don’t use your perception as a litmus test for truth.

 

Old Japanese Saying

Fix The Problem Not The Blame!

 

Ask Yourself, Would You Rather Be Happy Or Right?

If There Is A Difference Of Opinion, Decide… Would you rather be happy or right. Often, a short way into an argument, people can’t even remember what the original argument was about. The participants become so focused on proving their point (Winning) that the priority becomes proving that they are right, rather than solving the problem. Keep in mind as well that if you “Win” you have just made the other person a LOSER. That could be especially destructive when it involves a friend, spouse etc. No matter how right you think you are in that moment, always entertain the possibility that you could be wrong. Realistically… The actual truth usually lies somewhere in the middle.

 

What effect will this have on the overall outcome of my life?

Most differences of opinion are really about petty issues.”In the big scheme of things, how significant is the issue at hand? Probably not very significant most of the time.

 

Parents… What would you tell your child to do about a similar communications problem in a similar situation? 

We (parents) usually find it easy to give our children our wizened advice. Perhaps we could use a dose of our own advice from time to time.

 

Look For Common Ground

 

2. Philosophy For The Day

Our Behavior is the combined manifestation and expression of our thoughts, attitudes and emotions (feelings), therefore, it is our behavior, not our attitudes, thoughts and emotions (feelings), that exhibit  our ethical base, our level of integrity and define who we truly are.

By

Philip Holder PhD.

Grandmaster, North American Wing Chun Association

Copyright Philip Holder 2015

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4. Online and Tele-Sessions Save Time, Travel and Money

Occasionally technology can be frustrating, I think we would all agree, but for the most part, technology has added wonderful new opportunities to our lives. It can save us time, money and give us the opportunity to learn and experience things that would be difficult or impossible to do without this wonderful new tool. We can now communicate face to face in real time worldwide.

BodySmart wellness has taken full advantage of this great technology. Once students had to travel from wherever their home base was, to wherever Dr. holder was, for classes or sessions, incurring not only tuition expense, but travel expense, lodging expense and the time away from home and/or work. People wanting to see Dr. Holder regularly for individual, family or group sessions were, for the most part, limited to people within a reasonable driving radius, but that’s all changed!

Thanks to technology, training and certification courses, sessions, life coaching, can be done from anywhere in the world so long as the person has a computer, Webcam and high-speed Internet connection. Imagine doing one on one sessions, training or mentoring with Dr. Holder from the comfort of your own home, office or from the park or the beach. Well now you can.

Those interested should call the BodySmart wellness office and schedule a phone conversation, personally, with Dr. Holder to discuss your needs and tailor the best options for you. Call and purchase before 08/10/2015 and receive an additional free hour with Dr. Holder when you purchase an 8-session program for either sessions, coaching, training or mentoring.

Click Here, Fill Out This Form And Click Submit And We Will Send You Additional Information

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1. Dr. Holder will do an intake with you, in person or by phone regarding your goal.

     (Intake is to gather the information needed to create your personalized session)

2. A CD or MP3 audio file (your choice) will be recorded by Dr Holder

    and produced by BodySmart Wellness

3. The Audio Recording Of YOUR PERSONALIZED AUDIO SESSION, along with instructions for use,

    will be provided to you for your personal use. Use it as your schedule conveniently permits.

 

 

5. Workshops and Courses

Aug 2015

Date/Time	Event
Wednesday, August 5, 2015 5:30 pm – 7:00 pm	Online Webinar: “Grow Your Practice… Sales and Marketing Are Not Bad Words” – Part 6
Monday, August 17, 2015 6:00 pm – 7:30 pm	Online Webinar: “Essentials of Successful Regression Therapy” – Part 6

 

Sep 2015

Date/Time	Event
Thursday, September 24, 2015 6:30 pm – 9:00 pm	The Theory of Past Lives Bucks County Community College, Newtown PA

 

Oct 2015

Date/Time	Event
Thursday, October 15, 2015 6:30 pm – 8:30 pm	De-Hypnotize and Reprogram for Happiness and Success Bucks County Community College, Newtown PA
Thursday, October 29, 2015 6:30 pm – 8:30 pm	Public Speaking (Keeping Your Audience Interested and Inspired) Bucks County Community College, Newtown PA

 

Dec 2015

Date/Time	Event
Thursday, December 3, 2015 6:30 pm – 8:30 pm	Couples in Communication Bucks County Community College, Newtown PA

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General Information and Policies for all BodySmart Wellness workshops, seminars, classes etc. At BodySmart Wellness Location

At BodySmart Wellness Physical Location(s): Please arrive no less than 15 – 20 minutes before the start of any BodySmart Wellness class, workshop or seminar so that you can be checked in by starting time. Walking in after the start of a workshop is distracting to both the participants and the instructor or presenter. With classes, workshops or seminars that require calm and quiet (e.g.: Meditation, Higher self, etc.) the door will be closed and locked once class commences and no further entry will be permitted. Late arrivals will forfeit their registration/ticket. There will be no refunds of tuition if this occurs; however, the late arriving participant may receive credit for tuition paid towards another qualifying BodySmart Wellness class, workshop or seminar of the same fee or less… So please arrive 15 – 20 minutes early.

Depending on the workshop, class or seminar, usually there is reserved seating for only 15 – 20 participants. All participants must be pre-registered and pre-paid. Your email confirmation or receipt from our registration site is your ticket to the event so you must bring it with you. Absolutely no tickets/registrations will be sold at the door (no walk-ins). All registrations / Ticket purchases can made online throughwww.BodySmartWellness.com and/or www.MeowLearning.com In the event a workshop, seminar, or class is cancelled those registered will be notified in advance. Should that happen the participant can either request a refund for the event or receive a credit toward another event of the same cost or no more than $10.00 more than the event they originally registered for. Registering at least 3 or more days in advance is greatly appreciated. Ticket sales for events ends 24 hours prior to the event.

Refund Policy:
All sales (including but not limited to: programs, appointments, services, sessions, workshop, classes, merchandise) are final. We will gladly replace any defective product with one identical or as close to identical as possible if it is brought to our attention within 72 hours. Unused portions of items such as supplements must be returned in the original container to receive a replacement or office credit at BodySmart Wellness’s discretion. Since success is a joint effort between the provider and the participant, or customer, we offer no guarantees stated or implied.

Liability waiver and Indemnification :
I have read and understand the information contained in this document. I agree to hold harmless and for myself and my heirs or assignees and to indemnify and not to sue BodySmart Wellness LLC and/or Dr. Philip Holder, Dr. Marie Kimelheim and/or any officers, associates, helpers, including but not limited to, assistants, landlords or hosts for any reason as a result of my participation in any workshop, seminar program/session(s) etc. etc. whether online on physical site or any other. Any medical problems have been disclosed in writing to the BodySmart Wellness Administrators in advance of participation. This includes, but is not limited to, Heart Disease, H.I.V./AIDS, Hepatitis , Tuberculosis etc.

Misc.
Guests, rides/transportation, children of the attendee etc., are not permitted to enter the facility or wait at the event (or in the halls outside the event). Only registered, paid attendees will be admitted. Children under the age of 16 are not permitted to attend most workshops, so if you are anticipating registering/bringing anyone younger it is important that you ask if children under the age of 16 are permitted to attend that event before purchasing their ticket.
As a courtesy to other patients clients, and students, and to maintain the serene atmosphere that we of striving for, absolutely no cell phone use is permitted in the office. Cell phones must be turned OFF (not on vibrate or silent) before entering the office/facility. If you must make a call, please step into the hallway during a structured break. Please do not go in and out during the presentation. It is distracting to others.

IMPORTANT: It is prohibited for Clients/Patients/Customers/Attendees etc. to bring cameras or recording devices into the office or to any BodySmart Wellness event at any location. BodySmart Wellness LLC, Dr. Holder and/or Dr Kimelheim reserve the right to discontinue services to anyone found doing so with no refund of fees paid or balance due. Also, phones must be completely turned off during session (not on low or vibrate etc.). Interruptions caused by Clients/Patients/Customers/Attendees etc. phone, may result in the immediate ejection from the event without refund or the option for credit for another event.
Please email us at messages@BodySmartWellness.com with any topics that you would like to see covered in our newsletter. We want to supply you with the information that you need. Also visit our web site BodySmartWellness.com for other great information.
Online Classes, Webinars, Tele-conferences are subject to any and all of the requirements shown above that can in any way apply including but not limited to: Registration, Refund Policy, Recording of events, Age requirements etc. In registering participants are agreeing to these terms.

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BodySmart Wellness Center Administrators

Marie A Kimelheim MD.

Co-Owner

Marie A. Kimelheim, M.D. is a licensed psychiatrist who is also trained in Anti-aging and Regenerative Medicine, Holistic Psychiatry and Functional Medicine. She received her medical degree from Temple University School of Medicine and her psychiatry training at Temple University Hospital. She is currently a fellow in the American Academy of Anti-Aging Medicine program.

Dr. Kimelheim has over 20 years in medical practice specializing in Bio-Identical Hormone Replacement Therapy, Anti Aging Medicine, Mood Disorders, Integrative Psychiatry and Weight Loss. Dr. Kimelheim possesses a great understanding of patient’s weight loss and related health needs and combines her many skills to provide patients with exceptional service. Through patient specific specialized testing and treatment protocols she strives to determine the root cause of the patient’s symptoms and disease state rather than merely treating the symptoms..
Her interests include brain fitness for peak performance and optimal well-being, nutritional and alternative approaches for psychiatric disorders, bio-identical hormone replacement and spiritual attunement. Dr. Kimelheim merges mainstream and alternative medicine using functional medicine concepts, nutrition, and other natural approaches.

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Philip Holder PhD.

Medical Coordinator

Therapist specializing in counseling, and therapeutic Hypnosis, A sought after motivational speaker and teacher he instructs hypnotherapy & advanced hypnotherapy at Bucks County Community College as well as at nationwide events.

He is also certified by The International Association of Counselors and Therapists, the International Medical and Dental Hypnotherapy Association, the National Guild of Hypnotists, National Association of Transpersonal Hypnotherapists and other prominent organizations.

● Philip Holder was nominated for the Hypnosis Hall of Fame in 2000, 2001 and for 2003.

● He received the Hypnosis Hall of Fame’s prestigious Barton John Dutton award in 2001.

● He also received the award for “Outstanding Clinical Contributions” from NATH in 2002.

● In 2003 Dr. Holder was honored with the “Therapist Of The Year” award by the International Association of Counselors and Therapists.

● Awarded the International Medical Dental Hypnotherapy Association “Presidents Award” 2009

● 2013 Awarded International Medical Dental Hypnotherapy Association “Life Fellow In Hypnotherapy”

He is an instructor of hypnosis, hypnotherapy, and meditation and offers regular certification courses. He is a college professor and teaches hypnotherapy, advanced hypnotherapy and instructor level hypnotherapy at Bucks County College.

Dr. Holder is a lecturer and published author. He has appeared in many prominent magazines, on television, on talk radio, and is featured in a number of instructional video DVDs and on audio CDs. His book “Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy – The Power of the Subconscious Mind” has consistently retained a Five Star rating on Amazon.com and is used by both therapists and trainers as a source of information on hypnotherapy.

Over the years, thousands have benefited from Dr. Holder’s services. He regularly travels teaching seminars and workshops. As well, people travel from around the world to utilize his services and to study from him. He conducts workshops within various public school systems and for private educational facilities.

Dr. Holder is also one of the world’s most highly respected Shaolin Kung Fu and meditation masters. He has certification in acupressure and other holistic modalities, and experience as a personal fitness trainer/consultant. His background gives him a unique ability to address the union of body and mind like few others. He may be contacted at (215) 493-1204 or by email at messages@bodysmartwellness.com. For additional information on Wing Chun Kung Fu please visit the North American Wing Chun Association web page at www.wingchuncenter.com

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